What do goals have to do with it?
There are a few things I realized that feel life-changing and they center on the concept of “success” and how we just make it up. Another black badge was not my goal whereas videos at DEF CON were.
Success is completely arbitrary. We are the ones that set the goals for ourselves. Typically we are jerks to ourselves and constantly change the criteria and the focus between relationships, business, money, knowledge, etc. Success is self-defined and self-invented.
We can call ourselves successful anytime since we control the goals. Though psychologists tend to say it is not that easy as we set success criteria to some deep-seated need, like “success” for us could be to make more money since we were poor as a child or because that is how our parents measure success.
If we can overcome that feeling and recognize it, we can set goals for ourselves that every professional in self-help suggests. Goals not based on accomplishments/milestones but values. Since affirming values that we hold dear can bring happiness and if not happiness, better mental health.
While I still need constant reminders, I am trying to move from arbitrary goals and focus on values and a good perspective - honesty, integrity, being fully engaged when I set my mind to a task rather than specific milestones.
Assess your values and hack on,